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Slim Shady or Am I Just Paranoid?

August 29th, 2006 at 03:04 pm


"The cowboys have a way of trussing up a steer or a pugnacious bronco which fixes the brute so that it can neither move nor think. This is the hog-tie, and it is what Euclid did to geometry." ~Eric Bell, The Search for Truth

Okay long story.

The Hubster is eldest of five sibs. Their father passed away last year, The Hubster is the Executor on the estate.

One sister has a b-i-l who keeps trying to insert himself into the equation and it's starting to really aggravate me.

We were getting bids for painters and unsolicited he came up with his and it was the lowest and we did award the contract to him. The painting seems to be going fine.

NOW - he is wanting to sell the house for us at 3% commission. That might be more than okay if he was a licensed realtor but he isn't. The Hubster is not comfortable with this situation and the guy and Hubster's sister & husband keep trying to talk him out of getting with our attorney to verify the next needful thing. ARRRGGHHHH!!!

The attorney we have is the one of the most reputable people I know and I should know I was his legal secretary & office manager for years.

I hate it when someone tries to put their hand in your pocket!! The sales methods he uses and the paperwork he would execute might be perfectly legal and I'm not trying to impugne his reputation but by cracky no one 'official' asked ya!!


I hate this - they call you at 10 o'clock at night and want an answer to something the next minute when you've no time to consider nor consult. The Hubster is feeling cornered (hog-tied if you will).

Keep trying to tell The Hubster you'd better be careful, because 1)it's true you don't want to insult your family and/but 2)you signed on to protect the interests of ALL of your siblings, not this outsider who keeps trying to squeeze in!!

Get out of our life SlimShady!

It would be entirely different if he politely offered his services, left his number and then went on about his business. This isn't how it is happening though!

So what if we call the attorney for a $45 phone call - if it saves ALL OF US loads of heartache later, it is worth it!

Anyway, The Hubster is calling the attorney this a.m. and knowing him he'll tell him the same thing I've been trying to tell him. There are times to cut corners and this isn't one of them!!

It Just Ain't Happening Sweet Pea!

What do yu'uns think?

7 Responses to “Slim Shady or Am I Just Paranoid?”

  1. freeme journey Says:

    Family & Money Deals are like oil and water - they just don't mix. I have a brother who keeps trying to needle his way into a scheme or two and it drives me nuts.
    Have learnt from bad experiences that "money" stuff stays with professionals i.e. accountants, lawyers etc and NOT family.
    Convince Hubster to stay away - far away Smile

  2. ummabdullah Says:

    I second freeman.

    I think it is repulsive behavior while the memory of his father is still in the air.

  3. debtfreeme Says:

    um... is that not illegal? he is not bonded or insured or anything legal as a real estate agent/realtor. big mistake. have your husband tell him politely but no. the house will be sold through a registered agent. end of discussion. as executor he could be held legally responsible if something went wrong with the sale. he is not just protecting his bro/sisters but also you and your family.

    keep him strong! tell him to tell teh attorney. maybe send a letter telling him no with attorney signature would do it.

  4. LuxLiving Says:

    No he's not bonded - exactly what I told The Hubster!

  5. Thrifty Ray Says:

    Although he MAY be trying to help, you are right on when you advise DH that he is to protect the interests of ALL the siblings. Definately follow the attys advice...and when in doubt, call the attorney!!

  6. Saving in So Cal Says:

    Debtbefree has it right. As an executor, your husband has a duty to protect the assets and, if there is a court overseeing this process, he would not be able to use an unlicensed realtor even if he wanted to. Also, most states do not take well to unlicensed people doing jobs for which a license is required.

  7. LuckyRobin Says:

    I'd simply say, "Thank you so much for your offer but due to legal reasons we have decided to go another way." Only a complete clod would keep pushing after that. And if he does, than you can be less polite and more legal with the lawyer.

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